How to Kiss a Girl the First Time in Your Room
Steps
1
Bring her into the room. This can be done in a number of ways, but the best and probably most effective would be ask her! Something along the lines of, "Hey wanna go upstairs? My room is warmer/nicer/more comfortable than here." If she seems against it, don't push it or you'll make her uncomfortable. (Which is bad.)
2
Close the door, but not all the way. Most girls aren't very happy with being shut in a room by her boyfriend she hasn't even kissed yet, however, it might be bad if your parents or her parents come in while you guys are kissing.3
Remain standing until she sits on your bed. If you sit down and pull her down next to you, she might feel threatened or that things are moving too fast.4
When she sits, sit down next to her.5
Make eye contact with her. Girls like this. If you are still getting positive signals move to the next step. (The one you've been waiting for.)6
Touch her arm, and move in. If she says stop, then stop.7
Lean forward slowly and kiss her. Make sure you are gentle. Don't stick out your lips but gently press them against hers. If she doesn't kiss you back, she may just be surprised.8
Keep your eyes closed while still kissing her.9
If you feel it's the right time, you can move on to the French Kiss, but only if both you, and the girl, are ready. If this is your first kiss altogether, not just the first in your room, disregard this step.10
Once the kiss is over it could be cute to give her a small kiss on the cheek or a hug to end the kiss sweetly. (This, however, would not be so cute if the kiss ended in her pushing you away. Keep such things in mind when following these steps.)11
If she doesn't want the kiss to end gently put both your hands on her waist or softly place your hand on one side of her face. If she responds well to this keep going. If she starts to lean away, open her eyes or closes her mouth then discontinue with this step.
Tips
- Do everything slowly and gently and don't close your eyes until the last moment.
- If you don't or she doesn't want to do anything else, just lying on the bed and cuddling is fun too! (Girls often like this and will appreciate if for once it is all a guy wants to do.)
- Don't be shy or nervous, otherwise she will get nervous too! You don't want that. Let things glide naturally.
- After the kiss, it's nice to look her in the eyes and tell her you love her!
Warnings
- Some girls may take this the wrong way! You will know if she does. If she won't want to make eye contact, doesn't sit with you, doesn't say much, has her lips clamped together, or some similar sign, she isn't comfortable being on the bed with you right then. If this happens, you should either talk to her; tell her you don't mean to make her feel like that, ask what you can do to make her more comfortable, etc. or just go back to what ever you were doing before.
- If you're nervous or shy, girls will get hesitant, and back out. Not good!
- Never rush things.
- Kissing is one step, don't try to do anything more for now.
- Make sure you don't still have a mint or gum in your mouth when you kiss!
Things You'll Need
- Breath spray (optional)
- Breath mints or gum (optional)
- Freshen your breath. You never want to have bad breath when you are about to kiss someone, whether the kiss is a French kiss or not. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh breath is especially important. Practice good dental hygiene. Always have breath mints or mint-flavored gum if you think there is even so much as a hint of a chance you might kiss. Avoid foods that leave an unpleasant aftertaste or residue, particularly garlic, coffee, onions, milk, and corn.
- Teeth are a sensitive subject. You definitely do not want to bump teeth with each other. It is not only awkward, but can hurt. It might inevitably happen at times, so do not worry when it does. You may want to try rubbing the backs or fronts of the teeth of the other person with your tongue. This can create a ticklish feeling that might enhance your kiss. Not everyone enjoys having someone's tongue rubbing on their teeth, and many do not like to touch teeth with their tongue.
- Not everybody likes to be kissed the same way, so while your former partner might have enjoyed one method of kissing, your new love might not. You need to learn to read signals and adapt to a style that's comfortable for each of you. This works in reverse, too. Just because someone doesn't kiss you like you are used to does not mean they are a bad kisser. As long as you are comfortable with the kiss, try to be open-minded, as you just might like the new style.
- Be an active partner. If someone is French kissing you and you want them to do so, do not just sit there but get into the kiss. Reciprocate their actions, and alternate taking the lead on the movements of your tongues and lips. If you are uncomfortable with any part of the kiss, do not be afraid to pull away or gently close your lips. This will give your partner the hint.
- There are no rules for how long you should hold a kiss. If you feel uncomfortable at any time, break the kiss; otherwise, just enjoy it until one or both of you slowly pull apart, usually together. It is extremely romantic to lightly suck your partner's upper or bottom lip as you part. You might find yourselves returning to kissing, after each of you takes a breath.
- To some people a hard tongue is a turn-off. Keep tongue and lips soft and supple. Think of the pressure used to lick a soft service ice cream cone, no probing with a stiff tongue unless the other enjoys it.
- You can still French kiss if one or both of you has braces, but you should be careful to prevent the braces from touching each other. Also avoid touching the braces with your tongue (you might accidentally cut it). Check out How to Kiss with Braces.
- Excessive saliva can build up during a French kiss, and that can interfere with the romantic moment. Swallow periodically without breaking the kiss. If you have trouble doing that, do not be afraid to pull away for a moment. Smiling when you pull away can reassure your partner that you're just taking a small break, not rejecting their affection.
- Be aware that French kissing may transmit infectious diseases such as herpes and infectious mononucleosis (also known as mono).
- If you ever feel uncomfortable or do not want to move forward with any move your partner is attempting, pull away and let your partner know that you want to stop. Be firm. It's OK to say no.
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